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The Apathetic Negro

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Well…well…well…

Mr. Kapernick…how long I’ve wanted to speak with you regarding your decision to not vote in this past election.  Citing reasons, that it didn’t make a difference because of the state you lived in.  Yep…That’s what it is right there.  It’s symbolic of a condition that has plagued Black America for the longest time.  It’s something that blacks all over America are just ashamed of.  It’s the disease of APATHY.  A great Apathy at that.

Apathy is defined as a lack of interest; lack of concern; indifference; lack of enthusiasm

And my problem with Kapernick isn’t necessarily because he didn’t vote, because I’m not quite sure that we cared about that.  It’s more about the hypocrisy behind his NOT voting.  He, like many in America talk a good game, as to why they can’t be this, or they can’t be that.  Making the excuse that there’s no opportunity for blacks to successful, but when given an opportunity to change things, they do exactly what the rest of country expects a black man to do…NOTHING…And by that I mean in a way that says, I don’t care about anything, but what benefits me personally.  Although, I’m smart, and have some great ideas on how we can turn this country or what not around, I’m going to ruin my point, by doing the one thing that will keep me disenfranchised.  That will keep me bound.  I’m going to not exercise my right, because for some reason or another, it doesn’t make sense for me.  The right that my ancestors fought tirelessly to get.  Something that I should’ve had from the start, but because I grew up free, I can take that same right, for granted.

Now I don’t want anyone to get me wrong, this blog is not about Colin Kapernick, even though one might say that it could be (and I just don’t wanna waste my keystrokes on talking about him).  It’s about Blacks, African Americans, colored people, etc. (whatever they are calling us this year).  It’s about us, not doing what we know we need to do at the most crucial of times.  Like I said, it’s not that Colin didn’t vote.  It’s that he brought all that attention to himself and to the issue of not being treated fairly to the forefront.  And in doing so, he allowed a spotlight to be on himself.  Everyone clowns Bill Cosby for telling blacks that they need to get off their couches and behinds and educate themselves.  I can’t defend Mr. Cosby for everything he’s ever said, but at least he was going out to the schools and talking with people.  Donating his time and money to schools as well.  He also voted.  But his point too was marred by the fact that he was accused by 50-plus women of sexual assault.  It doesn’t mean that he did it, but it does cloud your points, gentlemen.  Yes, the blacks are treated unfairly in this country.  By whites, by other races alike.  In this graduating class of race, we win most of the negative superlatives.  A few categories, such as Most Likely to Be Stopped by the police for no reason.  Most likely to be judged before we speak.  Also Most likely to Be Killed for no reason other than the color of our skin.  We are presumed guilty before we walk in the door.  Even before we go to trial, and it’s a shame.  But when we do get the chance to show what we are made of, some of us don’t even show up to the party.  We have this attitude of, well it doesn’t even matter, it’s not made for us. It’s the system and It’s rigged.  (That sounds quite familiar doesn’t it.)

My basic point is this:  How effective can we be, if when given the opportunity to prove what we can do, we just lay down or not even show up.  As if it doesn’t matter to us. The people who do that are the same people you will hear complaining about the injustices of he world for the next 4 to 8 years, especially given the fact that half the people out there protesting Trump didn’t even vote.

Now I will say, that every experiment has to have a control, so here’s the other side of the argument:

I’m not saying that this justifies inaction, but there are reasons why some blacks choose to do nothing.   There’s a reason why blacks can come across so apathetic.  It’s partially because there have been so many attempts to block our basic unalienable rights (You know those rights given to everyone COUNTED as human in the Declaration of Independence), that some of us, have quit fighting.  That’s what you (the rest of America) wanted anyway.  Slavery was a time in which many blacks/Africans fought for their freedom, only to have it beat out of them… And it worked.  For those who don’t think slavery was that bad.  Imagine being a soldier in a war, and then being captured by the enemy.  Imagine, them torturing you on a daily basis.  Them asking you what your name is, and then getting beat when you say a name that was actually given to you at birth.  Being waterboarded for hours, nearly drowning, until you give up on everything you held dear, because you didn’t wanna die.  Because you hoped that one day you’d see your family, or friends again.  Then coming home and not even understanding who you really are anymore, or carrying this latent guilt that you aren’t even good enough to live.  That your life is worth nothing.  I honestly don’t know if there will ever be a way to adequately describe what those innate feelings are like.  I guess some could describe or equate it to PTSD from a historical standpoint.  Yeah, I’d say that at times it’s that serious.  Like you don’t matter when it all comes down to it, because of the way you’ve seen your parents, or grandparents treated historically.  It’s literally the definition of being an oppressed people.

I think that’s what makes it so difficult for me.  The apathy is extremely serious among African Americans.  So serious that we almost do all of the distress that our ancestors had gone through a disservice.  I’m sure if Martin Luther King would’ve known he was gonna die for us to choose not to vote, he might’ve had a different dream.  After all, he was jailed, beaten, hosed down, and later assassinated so our people could be free.  It was his dream.  Not only his dream, but the dream of all of those who marched, black and white, for us to have the ability to do the things we all dreamed of or desired.  It’s just (and I’m gonna keep it real) a slap in the face.  It’s a real problem with our community . When I see the numbers of this past election and realize that over half of us registered to vote didn’t get out there, it just makes me sick.  No wonder other races don’t take us seriously.  Because we won’t even honor our own struggles throughout history.  We are becoming just as entitled as everyone else.  Only difference is, we’re the ones that will continue paying for that entitlement.  Other cultures will go on living their lives, with the laws that were designed for them to succeed, and we won’t even stand a chance.  When it’s all said and done, we’ll still be living in the ‘hood’, or tenements that were designed to keep us down in the first place.  We will have to live with them voting every 50 years on the Civil Rights Act, because it’s a law that actually expires (CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT SH#@).  We will have to continue being oppressed, not because of the majority of blacks that are out there making a difference in their communities and homes.  But by the minority of us, that don’t give damn, because of all their conspiracy theories that believe white folks are STILL the cause of us being held back.  Yeah…they will be, if we remain lazy, keeping our mouths shut, and ourselves out of the voting booths when we should be casting a ballot.

The time for kneeling is OVER.  At this point, the only thing kneeling can do for us, is make it easier for a Slave Owner like Trump to strike us with his trusty whip!!! The time to Stand is Now!!  If you want real Change, start by coming up with a new work ethic.  A movement that says we will no longer stand for the injustices of the world or our own back yard for that matter.  That will be United in exercising our Civil Rights!!  That’s the type of Change that anyone would and should be willing to die for!!

 

The Wake Up Call!!

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D day…The shot heard ’round the world.  Did y’all hear it?  That sound of an alarm clock ringing in your ear. That bell that says the election of 2016 for the President of the United States of America is over?   Yeah, it’s over all right, and there’s a new President-elect.  And the name is…wait for it…wait…patience…Donald J. Trump!!!

Didn’t expect that one did you?  Trust me, nor did I.  If you would’ve asked me six months ago whether the nation would be electing Trump as it’s next leader of the free world, I would have laughed in your face.  I would’ve said that you’re amazing, because you are so naive.  Even if you had asked me a week ago, I would’ve most likely said, “yeah, it’s close, but there’s no way he’s getting elected.  We’re not that stupid in America.”  There’s no way a nation as free and liberal as ours could ever elect someone so closed minded.  So ignorant.  So, so…DONALD TRUMP…I guess I’m just glad that I didn’t bet the farm on this one.  I’d be homeless.

Nevertheless, Donald Trump IS going to be our new president.  And maybe it hurts because we had one of our Greatest, classiest, and coolest presidents we’ve ever had in President Barrack Obama.  And to think, afterwards, it will be him.  That GUY!!!  I was with you Hillary, but you lost, and there goes everything.  I’d say you let us down, but that’s just how politics work, right?  You win some and you lose some.  And while it is disappointing, I realize, it’s not the end of the world as I know…Not yet, at least…

So, for the past two days…I’ve been sitting here trying to get myself together.  I, like a bunch of other people, have been sorely depressed of the news that racists, misogynists, and basic idiots have taken the country back, to make America, what it once was…”Great Again…”  David Duke sent out a tweet congratulating Trump and saying that we’re going to take this country back to it’s greatness.   As a black man, as a father…as a working class person, you can see how one could be a bit concerned over those remarks, coming from a “former” Grand Wizard of the Ku Klux Klan.  Yeah…exactly.  If America has been great for the past 50 years, it’s because we’ve tried to distance ourselves from the days, of lynchings, blown up churches, and segregation.  I actually do believe the country has in fact, worked to get better. The only thing that we’ve proven this week though is that we have such a long way to go.

And I’ll be quite honest…with some of my statements above about someone being crazy to elect Trump as president, you might say that we as Americans, have become a bit complacent.  We’ve allowed ourselves to think that all this will be handed to us.  We can definitely see that Hillary’s camp thought so.  They knew after the rousing speeches at the convention and after, by Michelle Obama and others.  After the women that came out to say how terrible Trump treated them.  After all the workers that said how Trump had stiffed them for services rendered, that he was just not gonna be the guy that America lifted up to be it’s fearless leader.  As far as people believe this country has come in the fact that anyone who loves someone can get married to that person (man or woman). Or receive health care they so desperately need.  Now all of that could very well be endangered because of a man we don’t know to be truly liberal or conservative.

But wait…There’s more…there’s something else that we have not considered…

If I haven’t beaten a dead horse with this, I want to point out the fact that Racism is still there. It still runs rampid.  Some would say, but Barrack Obama, was president.  We had a black president.  Yeah, we did.  And what did we do to honor that black president?  How did we treat that black president?  That’s the question that should be on everyone’s minds.  He spent a majority, if not all of his two terms fighting with Congress, and dealing with racist people like Trump asking to see his birth certificate, on top of the disrespect that was shown to him and his family on a daily basis.

And this is my point.  If you’re disappointed that America, didn’t elect it’s first female president, that’s fine.  You should be.  History was about to be made, but instead, she took an @$$ whoopin’ at the hands of those 60 million Americans who would rather see someone who has no idea how to be in public office, than to see a woman running this country.  Ooooh…I get it, the only place a woman has in the White House, is the bedroom, or the kitchen, or the background in general?  She needs to be quiet and know her place, right?  I guess so, because that’s what America wanted right?  Like I said, while we’ve taken great strides in becoming one of the most free and diverse countries on the face of this earth, we have still taken for granted how many people there are out there, that don’t want that type of change to take place. We underestimated the power of the ‘Good Ole Boys’ club.  We forgot that just because we feel like there is injustice in the world, that social media will be the thing that gets us through.  That will automatically get the votes in.

To the people that decided not to vote, because they’d rather have Bernie Sanders in office.   Or because you didn’t think either candidate was viable.  Or because you wanted to protest the injustices of this nation.  Do yourself a favor, SHUT THE F$%() UP!!  He didn’t make the cut.  America voted on that one too!  You have people in the streets protesting, that Trump is not your president.  Yes, he IS…and you’ll move on, just like the rest of us.  Question is…how will you move on?

No matter what we think, the process can’t and won’t ever work, if we don’t get out there.  For those of you who did get out there., don’t stop thinking that your vote counts.  But next time, let’s do a little more.  Let’s each one talk to someone and help them to understand that these changes are going to come by posting “Get out and Vote” on Facebook, or putting a nice 3 minute video on Instagram.  It doesn’t work that way.   There’s another election coming up in 2 years, and that will be even more important than this one.  You want women in office.  Let’s get some in the Senate, or the House.  Let’s get some in city council, or in the governor’s office.  Find a way to make things happen.

So much more to come…

 

 

 

The Trump Card!!!

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Uh oh… it’s that time again. Time to get out to the polls and vote. So, what are the choices…we have a woman who at one time called people that look like me “super-predators” , and a man who for all intensive purposes is the village idiot. Well, that makes it tough because I truly don’t believe either candidate is a better representative of our country than the president that currently resides in office. Now don’t get me wrong, I know he has to go, but he’s just really cool and that be something to see him lead us into another 8 years. I’m sure though, he probably feels like he’s done. I’m sure his family does too.

Anyhow, back to the election of 2016. Now I normally don’t really insert myself in politics, but the way things have been going, the older I get the more I want my children to be taken care of. And that means I have to know at least some of what’s going on too. We the people, right? Well I’ll say this right from the beginning I ain’t voting for Trump. I am… Voting for Hillary Clinton…

While I’m not crazy about either candidate, I will tell you why she’s better for me. And honestly most of my reasons are about the Donald more so than about Sen Clinton.

So let’s just start with him… The Donald. The hair. That guy! That mouth! Yeah. Him.

Donald Trump has become, for all intensive purposes one of the most polarizing figures we’ve ever seen in an election year. Or history for that matter. He’s brash and more than outspoken at the best of times. He has no problem saying what is on his mind regardless of the time or place. The problem with that is, he could also care less about whether or not his points make sense. He tends to talk about how much he likes this or likes that. But when asked about the actual issues of the world, all he says is that he will negotiate his way out of debt. Never how or where he’s going to get the resources to implement his policies. I guess he thinks he’s gonna get around the country’s debt the same way he got out of losing a billion dollars back in the mid 90’s. This presidential candidate is all about saying the first thing that pops into his mind. He talks about poor people, people from other countries, and even touches on the subject of a person’s looks and weight. I guess anything to not talk about the real issues. When asked about social reform in terms of police relations with blacks, he said something extremely profound. He said, that we should bring back “stop and frisk” to Chicago because it worked so well in New York. Now here’s the thing. I’m not saying stop and frisk wasn’t necessary or that it didn’t reduce part of the crime rate, the truth about that law is that it targeted a certain group of people in certain neighborhoods. Okay…its about stopping black people. It’s racial profiling at best. And this candidate endorses this.

Let’s see what else. What does he know about foreign policy?

Nothing . Okay = Putin…

What does he know about the economy?

Nothing. Oh, wait…bankruptcy…multiple bankruptcies…Yeah that’s Trump.

What’s he say about keeping America safe?

Nothing…. Dang, my bad. His policy? Build a wall.

His slogan? Let’s make America great Again!!!

Man, it’s tough when you go with that to go against the guy (sarcasm noted Mr. Austin).

But let’s figure out the reason why I just don’t have it in me to vote for him. Hmmm….oh yeah. On the 110, he’s the villain of the story. Not to mention, he’s an idiot and bigot. He’s the family member you extend an invitation to for thanksgiving and pray to God he doesn’t show up because he’s gonna say something stupid and offend someone. And when you’re boy Mitt Romney comes and says he is the worst, that’s saying something serious. He can’t actually be…taken seriously, can he?

Here’s some truth for all those people who tend to vote Republican aka some white folks….

He’s racist! And if you vote for someone who’s so openly racist, I’ll just go this far and say this. Chances are you are either just blind as a bat, or pretty racist yourself. The pastors that are endorsing this guy aren’t really hip to the game. This man doesn’t love Jesus…the only thing he knows about God, he found out on the back of money.   Let’s keep real. He hates Muslims and uses the black people around him for entertainment. Just ask Omorosa.

You might think of this as a rant, but the truth be told, this is more than that. This man, doesn’t have the business savvy, the personal tact, the political experience, nor has he done anything for anyone in this country (wait, except for the people who won the Apprentice), but himself. These aren’t opinions, these are facts. He is the first one to talk about our current president, and his wife copied the first ladies speech. His wife is not even from this country. He can’t even speak about making America great, because he ships his jobs out to other countries, and he gets his wives from them too. Okay, maybe that was a little harsh, because you can Love whomever you choose. The point is this. He knows nothing about making a country great that he doesn’t love himself.  And the worst part about it all is that if we don’t get out there, f we choose not to vote, this guy will be the next president of the United States. In 6 weeks, it all goes down. And truth be told, I’m not saying Hillary is the end all be all, but I can tell you this.

She’s a better fit, more experienced, knows foreign policy, her husband balanced the budget to a surplus (Bill Clinton we love you), and she’s actually held public office as a Senator of New York. It’s not about the lessor of two evils, it’s about voting for who’s best for the country. And Hillary is just that. She will get us there, or at the very least, continue what our fantastic President Obama has started in truly helping America to be a respectable country again. There’s no choice here. I’m with Hillary.

More to come…

American Horror Story: Blood Lust


Exodus 20:13  You shall not MURDER

  1. We hold these truths to be self evident, that all men were created equal…(from the Declaration of Independence)
  2. “Now is the time to rise from the dark and desolate Valley of segregation to the sunlit path of racial justice. Now is the time to lift our nation from the quicksand of racial injustice to the solid rock of brotherhood.” (From the “I Have a Dream” speech.
  3. “On this day we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord. On this day, we proclaim an end to the petty grievances and false promises, the recriminations and worn-out dogmas that for far too long have strangled our politics.” (From the presidential inauguration address of 2009)

The past couple of days…(moment of silence)

The senseless deaths of Americans. Black and white. A country divided by race and prejudice. Hate and violence against one another. In all honesty it’s just exhausting to watch the news. I’ve seen videos of people speaking in the past few days about the killings in Baton Rogue and in Minnesota. I’ve seen tears shed by grown men. I’ve heard mothers and fathers having to tell their children, “it’s not all police officers. They don’t all hate you because of your skin.” Then last night happens in Dallas. Police officers killed and the part of the country that wouldn’t mourn for the men killed the two days before are now mourns because something new happened that hit a little closer to home. It’s the pendulum swinging from left to right. It’s the what goes around, comes around type of scenario. Like I said, it’s pretty exhausting. There was a story I saw this morning about a man found hanging from a tree. He was black. The KKK may have been involved as they were spotted the night before.  It’s beginning to look a lot like chaos. Pure calamity.

Can you believe that more than 50 years after the civil rights act of 1964 was signed, we’re still hanging people. More than 60 years after the Brown v the Board of Education ruled segregation unconstitutional, we’re probably more segregated than ever.  And almost 8 years since we swore in our first black President, racism seems worse than ever. People are still going into churches, clubs, and movie theaters to kill one another. There’s still black on black crime that barely gets addressed. Police are still abusing their authority.  Guns are still a major problem. Whites hating other races. And it’s spread because racism is not just about white / black anymore. There also remains the gentrification of the poor people to give the appearance of how beautiful this country is.

Listen, We might be the “land of free” and “home of the brave”. But we’re also the land of the largest prison population in the world. Land to the most unreported and unprecedented sexual crimes in the world.  Children living on the streets and religions being discriminated against. That’s us…that’s who we are. People talk about making America great again in this election year, but the question is really how great has America ever been?  Don’t get me wrong, we have freedoms here that no one else has. We can wear our Beat Headphones on the train without worry.  We can generally drive to the store and watch our reality TV without a problem. But in the end, how great have we been? We’ve committed more crimes against humanity than anyone as a whole. We’ve treated people who were born in this country as second class citizens just because they don’t have the same skin color, religion or sexual preference.  We’ve prioritized hate in a way that makes us look silly to our international counterparts. That’s the big bad great United States of America. That’s us right?

While I didn’t intend to come across all ” we are the world”, I do wanna state that we still have a chance. We can still get this thing right. We can still achieve a peace within ourselves and for this nation. Any person worth their weight in salt, can say that being a good person will make the difference. But the truth is that it’s going to require more than just being a good person.  We have to stop this. This Lust for the Blood of our own. It’s civil war. We’re at the point where we can’t even go a few hours without there having to be blood on someone’s hands. .

Whites are afraid of blacks in general.  Blacks are afraid of white police officers. Everybody is afraid of Muslims, and it just doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. So what do we do?  What do I tell my son the first time he says the pledge of allegiance and asks me what it means. Or when he hears about a man being shot in front of a child because the officer was “in fear for his life” ?  Or when someone calls him a “nigger” because they heard their parent say it and thought it was okay.  It’s enough to make me cry. Over and over again. It makes me feel like there’s no hope except to stay in the house and hope that there’s not going to be a yearly Purge instituted.  Because that’s where we are leading up to.

The thing about war is that when you have an enemy, the easiest way to not lose numbers of your own is to have your enemy tear itself up from the inside out. That’s what America does each and every day. That’s what will become our fatal flaw. It’s time we got it together. I’m tired of blacks making excuses for why we commit stupid crimes. I’m tired of whites making excuses for why they shot a kid with a toy gun. I’m tired of juries making excuses for a man that followed a kid walking through a neighborhood with a hoodie on just because of he wanted to be some type of vigilante figure. I’m tired of people hating a whole religion because of a few demented and radical individuals that don’t have anything better to do than create bombs and incite fear.  It just honestly gets old.

With that said, the floor is open for suggestions. The time is now to let go of this “need” for people to be hurt or to die, while we claim we’re just minding our business. We need to treat each other like the family we really are. After all, we do essentially live in the same country, together.  I hate to be the one to say this, well actually I don’t… but maybe it is in fact time for prayer. Maybe it’s time to find some peace in someone, something other than ourselves.  I never seen anyone killed when all in the room were on the knees with their eyes closed of one Accord. You may not be religious, and you may not believe. But one thing that is evident is that we need something…we need to be saved…apparently from ourselves.

More to come…

Is Love Really Love?

 

Okay, so before I start this post, I’d like to say that I’ve grown a bit tired.  Tired of hurting over all of this.  Tired of talking about racism.  Tired of worrying for my son and daughter for the years they will spend without me on this earth.  And even in the moments that I am here, that I can’t be in their presence.  I mean the truth of the matter is, I already have to worry about drunk drivers on the road in the days and night.  Not only that, but I have to worry about people that would mistreat them in their schools.  I have to worry about child abusers, molesters, and rapists.  People who will judge them for their beliefs, and practices of life.  And to top it all off, after almost 450 years, I STILL have to worry about RACISM.  I mean I am ACTUALLY, GENUINELY concerned about RACISM.  For someone who tries very hard to not say negative things, That is bulls#$#%!!!  Yeah…I said it.  It really is.  That’s really just the tip of the iceberg on what I wanted to say.  So I guess now, we can get to the blog already in progress.

#AltonSterling

I’ll just say that.  One of the latest and greatest in the world of police violence.  I guess that seems a little broad, so I’ll try to break it down a bit more.  The latest person to be killed (I would say murdered, but I guess that’s for a grand jury to decide…RIGHT!) at the hands of police officers who just so happen to be white.  I speak of the color of their skin, because the man killed on their shift was black.  Why does that matter?  Normally, I’d say it doesn’t.  Today it does though.  It matters, because of the way he was killed.  It matters because it’s another killing that didn’t have to occur.  It’s the police.  The people that are sworn to serve and protect.  Now in past blogs, I’ve been pretty critical of black people and their actions that lead up to these killings, so let me just take a moment to be critical of Alton Sterling for a moment:

First and foremost Mr. Sterling, why in the world were you out at midnight, selling CDs, at a corner store…WITH A GUN?  That’s a problem for me.  If you felt the need to carry a gun while you were out after midnight, with your children at home, it’s possible that you should not have been there.  You should have been home with your family.  You should have been a responsible black man and not a statistic, like they believe all or most of us to be.  Com’on man!! For real.  Take your Black @ss back home and work during normal business hours so you can get home safe to those babies that love you so much!!    To the family of Mr. Sterling, I apologize if that sounded harsh, but I wanted to make sure that Alton Sterling gets his proper due in this as well.  We as African Americans have a tendency to not look at the situations as a whole, because of how racism feels.  But that’s all I’m gonna say about Alton Sterling from that point of view.

Now everyone else, it’s your turn.  Not just white folks, but to the world of people out there that still believe that we’ve made strides in racism.

Here’s the thing:  Racism is NOT EVEN CLOSE TO BEING DEAD!!  More people are seeming to die daily at the hands of racism than ever before.   At the hands of racist cops at that!  The problem I have with racism isn’t that it exists, so much as it is that people turn a blind eye to it.  They say that the greatest achievement of the devil was convincing the world that he didn’t exist.  Because the truth of the matter is that he, the devil, is alive and well, and he works through the world and the media daily, to say that things like racism does not exist.  This is crazy, why am I even writing about this at this point?

Let me take a second to get to the real problem though.  Big Businesses and mainstream media.  We all know how the media portrays these situations.  They play it over and over again on CNN, MSNBC, or whatever news outlets you can find.  It’s on TV, every hour, on the hour, saying WARNING:  THE FOLLOWING VIDEO CONTAINS DISTURBING/GRAPHIC CONTENT.  VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED.  Then we get to watch in absolute horror a video that shows us nothing except a black man or woman being accosted by police officers.  Or a police car driving up aggressively on a 10 year old kid playing with a toy gun killing him within seconds of the stop.  The mainstream media has it’s way of causing immediate outrage, but never checking back in after the first two days to report that justice has been served.  I can remember last year when that kid went into the church in Charleston, SC to kill those 9 people.  They made such a big deal out of this white kid, who went into a church where people were minding their business and welcomed him to kill all of those people.  Then days later, the ONLY reason the church got anymore coverage was because The President of the United States was on TV giving a eulogy singing “Amazing Grace”.  I mean, let’s keep it 110 here.  That’s the reason.

Then low and behold a club gets shot up in Orlando…It just so happens to be a “Gay” Club.

The FOLLOWING STATEMENTS ARE NOT TO OFFEND…READER DISCRETION IS ADVISED…

When this club got shot up, you had all kinds LGBTQ groups immobilized and the media and business all over the world were absolutely outraged.  “How could someone go into a club and shoot it up?  This is ABSOLUTELY the WORST form of HATE ever”, they procclaimed.  HATE CRIMES disgust people.  But somehow not as much when they involve black people. Again, Yeah, I said it!!  There were funds created called ONE ORLANDO to stop acts of violence against gays in the city of Orlando.  Businesses all over the country have given to this cause as if that’s the only cause out there.  This might sound insensitive to the lives lost on that evening, but that is definitely not the first club to be shot up by a person, and it certainly won’t be the last.  Is it so terrible because the people in the club were homosexual?  Not sure.  That’s not the point though.  The question I pose is this:  Where were the LGBTQ, and the media, and big business when that church got shot up.  Where were the funds for those 9 families?  Where were the funds raised by businesses in this country for the city and people of FLINT when they didn’t even have clean water to drink?  Where were they?  #BlackLivesMatter?  Oh I’m sorry, ALL LIVES MATTER RIGHT?  Love is LOVE, right?  Love can’t be Love, because there is no Love shown to poor people, or Black People or urban areas, in these moments.  If Alton Sterling had been a gay man, at the corner store, people would have said, he was wrongly accused, and that he was just trying to make money to feed his family, when police assaulted him.  But instead, we will look into his past and make him out to be a thug, because he carried a gun.  Now where are the second Amendment proponents out there?  After all, he had the right to bear arms…But that same right got him shot a few nights ago…HMMM…

This is the point…If LOVE Is LOVE, and ALL LIVES MATTER, it has to be that way across the board.  Not when corporations or the media choose them to matter.  It’s annoying.  It’s sickening.  It’s down right wrong altogether.  I want all the people that changed their Facebook page and prayed for Orlando and Paris, to do the same for the people in clubs, at corner stores, or wherever there are people that lose their lives daily.  For the Black Lives that get lost on a daily basis due to police violence because IT DOES EXIST.  White folks, gay folks, everybody, Stand up for the black lives too.  If it was your family member, you’d want to be represented fairly.  I rarely see my white friends stand up for #BlackLivesMatter.  Is it because the word black is in front of it?  Does that mean it’s none of your business?   Just saying.  If your white child, was hanging out with my black child in that moment, would it matter then?  Think about it….If this sounds like I’m angry, it’s because I am.  The question is…Why aren’t you?

More to come…

#PhilandoCastile

Breaking NEWS:  Another Black Man gets shot!!! This time in his car with his girlfriend and child.  From what I understand about the story, he was ACTUALLY a law abiding citizen (Must be hard to believe), who informed the police officer that He had a concealed weapon and had a permit to do so.  I wonder if that would have happened to a card carrying member of the NRA.  Even watching this video he seemed SOOOO Threatening…

When is this gonna stop?  When will the Powers that Be, and the people who come out to get speed bumps and street lights placed on their block, stand up for these innocent people being terrorized by the police.  This is getting to the point where it’s not just an isolated incident.  I understand that YOU may have had some bad experiences with people of COLOR in your life, but truth be told, haven’t you had some similarly bad things happen to you at the hands of white people too?  It doesn’t make you scared of white folks in general.  Does it?  It doesn’t make you clutch your purse at the sight of a white man in a bar or ATM.  And it doesn’t make those of you that are police officers shoot White Men IN THEIR CARS, WITH THEIR CHILDREN.  What the #$** was that Officer thinking?  He shot 4 times.  He could have injured the other two passengers in the car.  What in the world people?  What’s the solution for all this?

Oh…I know...ADMINISTRATIVE LEAVE (PAID) WHILE A GRAND JURY TAKES 5 DAYS TO DECIDE THAT THE OFFICER ACTED OUT OF FEAR FOR HIS OWN LIFE!!!  GOT IT!!

 

 

The Truth About Consequences

In my life, I guess I could say that I’ve been in a relationship or two. Or three or four or five.  And in that time  I have experienced many different things. Some good, some, well . . . maybe I don’t wanna talk about.   I would say that in that experience, one of things that affected what I’ve gone  through most has been my ability to make decisions in those times. Whether I made the right decision,or did something I just wasn’t proud of.   And the thing that’s interesting about it all not the decisions that I’ve made, but the effects of them all.  No matter where I was in life, I’ve always tried to do the right thing.  Even if it wasn’t the most beneficial for me. I’ve done things to sacrifice for others and ultimately those same sacrifices were the ones that did me in.  They were the things that actually brought me the most conflict inside.

Some might ask why or how that could happen? Aren’t you supposed to help others?  Isn’t a man supposed to fall on the sword for his wife, his friends,  his family?  You know, I don’t quite know if I have the answer to that question, but I will say that there are many reasons why someone might do something, and all of those reasons aren’t as noble as one might think.  There is also the fact that those decisions, good, bad, or indifferent, have consequences attached to them. 

One of the main points that most may not quite understand is the consequences of our actions may be long lasting. Long lasting? What you talking about Willis?  We can’t go on in our relationships, our marriages, or different parts of our lives without knowing that.  Like I said before, there are good things and there are bad things. But the laws of physics suggest that for every action, there is a reaction, and the angles we come from are more important than we think. The bible itself even suggests that you reap what your sow. In other words you harvest the fruit of the seeds you plant. In everything.

Let’s take a relationship where the couple decides to split  One has made the choice to leave a place they have been in for x amount of years. They are leaving what they have  known, etc.   Let’s just say for the sake of conversation that in leaving, the care of the pets was not prioritized. Because the couple couldn’t decide on custody, one was left with the everyday care and the other left to see their dogs every other weekend. Or even worse, once a month. He may believe that he did the right thing in leaving the relationship, but there are still consequences as a result of that.
Let’s take heartbreak for another example. Just because someone is heartbroken from a break up doesn’t mean there still won’t be residual effects because of it. Those same affects from a previous situation may last days, months, or years.  Just know that..   Just know that there is always a certain amount of baggage that comes from our previous situations. Whether that is a “toothbrush” or s full on “suitcase with matching duffle bag”, there is rarely no carry over.

People just don’t realize that when we live life, We can’t just erase the things that we’ve done. Reason being is that the pages of life are not written in pencil, but in pen.  And not the erasable ink kind. And even still sometimes those same pages written in marker, and just any marker, I’m talking about that big fat pre-school marker that gets all over your hands and everything else.  We all know what a permanent marker can do to a book or notebook of blank pages, especially that thick black one. When we use marker we have to be careful not to press too hard, because not only can we mark up the page we’re on, but we can possibly mark through the pages after.  You’ve seen it where the pages have hints of the original marking, and you have to go on for multiple pages before you are unable to see the marks that occurred so many pages ago.  That is life in a nutshell. The decisions we make tend to have lingering affects on us. We go through times and situations that leads us from place to place in our lives.  And we often have no choice but to bring some of that with us. It’s our life’s experience.  It’s what some would dare to say is our greatest teacher. 

Here’s another example : let’s just say for the sake of conversation that you have a number of things you’ve done wrong financially and had to end up declaring bankruptcy. In your eyes, that was the last thing you wanted to happen, yet you almost couldn’t stop it. You made a slew of bad decisions and you got into a financial bind. So now you need assistance in dealing with those decisions. So you declare. You know it’s a process, but you may not even know the implications of having a bankruptcy on your record. The thing is, Bankruptcy takes time to get past depending on the chapter you file. For some it takes a few years and others it may take up to 7 years.  Many people only go through the process to be alleviated of their past bills. They don’t believe those mistakes will matter or affect them any more. The thing is, that in reality creditors can see that bankruptcy on your report.  And to some that means more than actually having paid off those collections that you had. At least in their eyes they would have showed paid. But the bankruptcy may tell them, that you can’t keep up with money or your finances and if there’s an issue you’ll take the easy way out(creditors don’t know nor do they care whether or not things are easy).

The thing is this. We do have to think about our decisions and be wise. Not only that, but we have to also find ways to get past our issues.  And even when we think we’re past them , it seems like some decisions will haunt us forever. Our decisions have an effect on others regardless of whether or not we have good intentions. I think that the main thing we need to understand is that our actions are what’s most important. Also having insight rather than hindsight on how things will affect us as well as the people around us that we claim to care so much more.  If you understand nothing else I’ve said in this you should get this right here:  while we can control every act we commit or do, we rarely if ever get to control the consequences. So make sure you choose wisely. There’s so much that depends on it.

Thy Will Be Done…

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth:  2-8 A right time for birth and another for death, A right time to plant and another to reap, A right time to kill and another to heal, A right time to destroy and another to construct, A right time to cry and another to laugh, A right time to lament and another to cheer, A right time to make love and another to abstain, A right time to embrace and another to part, A right time to search and another to count your losses, A right time to hold on and another to let go, A right time to rip out and another to mend, A right time to shut up and another to speak up, A right time to love and another to hate, A right time to wage war and another to make peace.

“Why God?  Why?  Why am I dealing with this thing?  Why am I hurting like this?  I thought you wanted me to prosper?  I thought that you had a plan for me.  What do you want me to do?  Why am I going through so much if I’m supposed to be able to do all things through you?  I’m leaning on, begging you, asking you, and all you’re doing is watching me go through all this.  Can’t you hear me?  I’m screaming at you right now to do something…I’m screaming, and starting to lose my voice…Why can’t you hear me?  Why are you doing this, or letting this happen to me?”

Not gonna lie, I’ve said all that before.  I’ve said some of it recently.  I’ve been through some things that some would say weren’t that bad, and others would say are so serious that they don’t even see how I’ve made it this far.  And maybe there’s a possibility that they wouldn’t have.  Not because they don’t have the ability to survive, but because they just can’t go through the things I have to go through.  I ask myself, if all this is happening, then how in the world could this (the bad stuff) be God’s will?  How could God’s will involve pain, and brokenness?    How could God, whom every good and perfect thing come from Him, allow me to be subjected to this.  After all, if you know anything about the Bible, you know that no harm could ever come our way, without God’s consent, right?

The Bible would have us look no further than Jesus for that answer.  Look at the way he was martyred.  Slain, and left out to pasture, by his own people.  It was God’s permissible will.  It happened so that God’s perfect could happen.  There would be no resurrection if there without his earthly death.  There would be no salvation, if we didn’t need to be saved (from ourselves) from the curse that is sin.  That’s just the way it is, right?  In life we have been through things, and have dealt with trauma over and over again.  And we often-times ask ourselves how we could pray or ever hope for God’s will to be done, if this is what we’d have to endure for it happen.  “Lord, if this is what it means for your will to be done, I don’t think I want that.”  I know I feel that way all the time.

We hear people quote the scripture from Romans 8:28:  All things work for the good of those that love God and are called according to His purpose.  We use that scripture to say that no matter what everything will alright.  To say that we can get through it because it’s about God’s purpose.  The truth of matter is, we don’t wanna go through anything (at least no type of adversity) to get to our purpose.  Why would we?  We quote these scriptures and pray for God’s will to be done, and it’s as if we don’t really understand what that entails.  We don’t understand that perhaps in God will being done, that He’s gonna have to allow us to be broken into pieces.  Ouch!!  That He’s gonna have to allow our relationships to be torn apart and maybe even fail (Yes, I’m even talking about marriages, ie check the divorce rate among believers).  There are going to be some casualties and some losses in this war.  Someone told me once that War is a word indicative of destruction, and therefore we should be careful in using that word to describe things.  They were absolutely right when they said that.  I would interject, that sometimes, war is exactly what it is.  Some things will have to be destroyed.  Others will have to be rebuilt afterwards.  God doesn’t allow it just because, He allows it for His purpose, otherwise known as His will.  That loss that impacted your life, and caused you to go through some things, was for the will of God.  That marriage you got into and have had for 10+ years, that all of the sudden no longer works, could be a part of God’s will for you as well.  It’s a plan.  It’s purpose driven.  The truth is, rarely do we agree with the execution of it.

I saw a video posted last week on Facebook titled, if Someone Leaves you, Let them Leave (wow).  That doesn’t seem very nice.  I know right?  The purpose of what TD Jakes was saying in the sermon, was that God has a purpose for all things.  And when you’re in something and someone makes a decision to make an exit, then it’s quite possible that it happened according to God’s permissible will.  I use permissible, because, it doesn’t necessarily have to happen that way, but God is not going to do anything to stop it or intervene, because He ultimately knows that person or thing is not attached to your true purpose.  Let’s talk about relationships for a second.  We see people try and try and try to “make” their relationships and marriages “work”.  They want to talk and go to counseling and figure out all the things that have gone wrong to repair their marriage.  Don’t get me wrong, you are supposed to perform your “due diligence” for your relationships/marriage.  You should make sure you’ve done all “humanly” possible.  That’s just it, when it goes beyond the two of you, and you get to that moment where you finally decide to pray, you better make sure you know what you’re asking.  You need to know that when we ask God to intervene, that some stuff we think is crazy might just happen.  Are you saying that heartache, and heartbreak are possible when God’s will is done?  That’s exactly what I’m saying.   Sometimes it’s almost a certainty that someone will be hurt, depending on the situation of course.

What if I told you, that in order for you to reach this peak level, you will have to lose everything you hold dear?  Some people would say, “Sure, I’ll do it.”  What if, in that same breath, they said, you’ll end up homeless, losing a child, your wife, and have no earthly possessions with the exception the clothes on your back?  Would you still be so quick to accept the challenge?  You’re lying if you jumped to say “Yes!!”  Nobody, and I mean Nobody wants to go through some of the hardships that have to be had in order to fulfill God’s will. That’s why we have to be willing participants in it.  We have to understand that there are things that we can’t pack in the suitcase to go on this journey.  Things that just don’t fit.  Like trying to put a square peg into a hole the shape of a triangle.

God’s will can be harsh to us at times and we never know what He has in store.  That’s because God is willing to do whatever possible to get the best out of you.  He doesn’t act the way we do, He doesn’t think the way we think.  He sees hurt as possibly helpful (of course He doesn’t want us to hurt, but He knows we have a great tendency to get in our own way), and not necessarily as a hindrance.  It’s a means to an end to get us to where we need to be.  They are lessons and parables to Him.  They are there to ultimately prosper you.  To make you the best version of you EVER.  That’s what we call His Perfect Will.  That’s why when Jesus was in Gethsemane praying, knowing that He would soon be taken to be crucified, that He would pray “Nevertheless, your will be done.”  It’s because despite what He felt, He realized that the perfect will of the Father was always going to be best.