The Problem with Inclusion

It’s 2018…

Today we have moments like the #MeToo and #TimesUp spearheaded by multiple races.  Shonda Rhimes, Reese Witherspoon, Rose McGowan Oprah Winfrey, Sandra Bullock, Rosario Dawson, Selma Hayek, just to name a few.  They are battling the likes of the Harvey Weinstein’s and Matt Lauer’s out there who have taken advantage of their position in show business for years.  The claims of sexual assault and harassment now plague their careers because of this unified movement.  While there is an absolute need for this in society, the sad truth is that the public can only handle one type of serious movement at a time.  With that said, movements like #TakeaKnee and #BlackLivesMovement again are poised to take a backseat yet again.  Here’s a question, did anyone every really take them seriously to begin with.  More and more Americans came out on the side of #45, saying those players were disrespecting the flag, and therefore forgot about the movement against police brutality. They forgot about the kids being killed in the black community for no reason.  Now it’s all about #MeToo.  Next year, it will be something else.

Which brings me to the subject at hand.

Let’s face it…Be real with ourselves…it’s 2018…

And Black People getting no closer to being loved by other races, than we were 20 or 50 years ago.  Racism is more poignant than ever.  The conversation of the subject itself is so polarizing that no one will touch it with a 10 foot pole.  I have white friends, that I’ve asked and called upon to speak on it.  But they remain silent for fear of the backlash in their own community.  They just choose.  For all intensive words…to stay neutral.

And to be honest I would say that it makes me sad, but it doesn’t.  It’s just par for the course at this point.  This is the way it has always been.  And it’s not going anywhere. For the past 250+ years there has been a concerted effort for Blacks to be included and indoctrinated into this American society.  We as black people tend to oftentimes be overly concerned with whether or not, things are fair.  Tell me, when is the last time you noticed how fair things in this country were?  When has life in general been fair?  There have been people getting their hearts broken, dying for nothing through the course of history.  That will never change.  One more time.  That will never, ever change.

Black People have tried and worked so hard for inclusion over the centuries.  We should have a come to Jesus moment and think about it for a moment.   Have you ever had something, and then had a friend who always talked about how good they believe you have it?  Everything they say is about what you have, and how they wish they had what you have.  Also how they’d do anything just to have the opportunities that you have been afforded….Doesn’t that get old after a while?  Doesn’t seem like we’re doing more talking, than doing?  Does it not feel like we’ve been saying that same thing, since we were slaves?  It’s wrong.  It’s envy.  And we’re a beautiful people (Black People), and we don’t need to envy ANYONE.  Our cultures boasts some of the greatest innovators, minds, athletes, teachers, scholars, pastors, engineers, technicians, of all time.  A black man was the first doctor to perform open heart surgery.  Created the stop light, the gas mask, even the home security system.  Oh yeah, and that heart you love so much, was helped out by the pace maker that a black man helped crate.  Became president, and some of the most renowned spiritual minds in the world.   We’ve overcome so many things.  Now we need to learn to overcome ourselves.  Did you know the first female millionaire in the US, was Madam C.J. Walker.  She created a successful empire of something she created FOR BLACKS…

And that’s the point.  Because that’s the way we’ve gotten by without being included, or given the freedoms we should have always been afforded.   We tend to expect white folks to help us out with this too.  But do we REALLY need their help?  Sure, they hold positions, and seats, and opportunities, but I’m sure you didn’t graduate Summa Cum Laude, just so you could wait on another person to give you an opportunity to prove your worth.  Fair enough, there will be some things in the world that we will need to be given.  But those other things, those unalienable rights, those necessities for jobs, and health care…Oh those things can be created.  Created by us.

There have been many people that have gone out of their way to empower black people to do more.  They’ve spoken at schools, they’ve become leaders of our communities.  And yet somehow, their words don’t resonate in each of us to unify.  It’s like the words of these amazing individuals are falling on deaf ears.  Hmmm… I wonder if Dr. King, Malcolm X, President Obama, in their many wonderful speeches to empower us, had us still dealing drugs in our communities, because that was the only way we could survive.  I wonder how they felt about us going into our neighbors homes and robbing stealing from each other.  Or better yet, that we’d kill each other because of a different colored bandanna we wore.  Hmmm.  Interesting…to say the least.  I don’t think they had any of that in mind when they gave those beautifully crafted speeches.

Even the slaves that wanted to be free so badly couldn’t fathom killing each other.  They just wanted to be free.  They wanted so badly to get a taste of what it was like to not be whipped on a daily basis, that they were willing to band together for the greater good.  That’s what I’m talking about here.  Blacks want each other to support their own businesses, but don’t wanna take the time to put out a good product.  You want the support regardless.  Check this out bruh…I’m not gonna eat at your spot, if your food doesn’t taste good.  It’s like eating the food of someone who can’t cook just because you love’em.  Sometimes…it’s a McDonald’s night, because daddy burned the food. That’s real.  That’s the way it is.

People put laws together that have jailed us…to screw us over…That might’ve been the intent.  But ask yourself a question:  Did the law created cause us to break it?  Let’s be honest.  If we’re gonna have the conversation, then the least we can do is keep it 110 right now…

The problem with inclusion isn’t so much that we need it, but it’s more that we are chasing after a waterfall here.  We’re missing something that was actually never there for us.  I mean don’t get me wrong, there have been those that would join blacks in the world, but for the most part, we’ve never been included or really invited to the table with all the “heavy hitters”.  We’ve always had to exceed expectations to get there.  That’s why I wonder why we care so much about assimilation in the first place.  Michael Jordan’s talent got him noticed.  His exceeding expectations got him to the table.  But he didn’t stop there.  He wasn’t content at sitting at the table.  He ended up creating his own table.   Oprah grew up poor, worked hard and got a seat at the table.  But she wasn’t content with just being there.  She left her own show, and dreamed bigger.  Rather than just have a radio or TV show.  She created a conglomerate, that included a Magazine, a TV network and movies that she was able to create content that she wanted to see.  With people that looked and had been through some of the similar things that she had.  Along with people like Steve Harvey, Tyler Perry, etc.

That’s where I’m getting at.  It’s not a bad thing to want to be included in others.  But it is a bad thing to expect other groups of people to do so for us.  I could sit here and complain about how people like the Kardashians and Ellen, or whomever should be more adept to being for the rights of blacks and our movements.  Support us the way we have supported them, but the truth of the matter is, I don’t have another life to wait for them to do come to that mentality.  We just gotta do it ourselves black people.  Start being great on our own.  Let’s use some of that Black Girl/Boy Magic we brag so much about.  Let’s get the job done, and be who we wanna be!  Black is Strong! Black is Family!  Black is Beautiful.  Black is Powerful.  Black is Prosperous and Luxurious.  Never forget that!!


About jaisynaustin

What I write about is life...The way it changes and affects me every day. Love, heartache, and Mystery in relationships.

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