There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth: 2-8 A right time for birth and another for death, A right time to plant and another to reap, A right time to kill and another to heal, A right time to destroy and another to construct, A right time to cry and another to laugh, A right time to lament and another to cheer, A right time to make love and another to abstain, A right time to embrace and another to part, A right time to search and another to count your losses, A right time to hold on and another to let go, A right time to rip out and another to mend, A right time to shut up and another to speak up, A right time to love and another to hate, A right time to wage war and another to make peace.
“Why God? Why? Why am I dealing with this thing? Why am I hurting like this? I thought you wanted me to prosper? I thought that you had a plan for me. What do you want me to do? Why am I going through so much if I’m supposed to be able to do all things through you? I’m leaning on, begging you, asking you, and all you’re doing is watching me go through all this. Can’t you hear me? I’m screaming at you right now to do something…I’m screaming, and starting to lose my voice…Why can’t you hear me? Why are you doing this, or letting this happen to me?”
Not gonna lie, I’ve said all that before. I’ve said some of it recently. I’ve been through some things that some would say weren’t that bad, and others would say are so serious that they don’t even see how I’ve made it this far. And maybe there’s a possibility that they wouldn’t have. Not because they don’t have the ability to survive, but because they just can’t go through the things I have to go through. I ask myself, if all this is happening, then how in the world could this (the bad stuff) be God’s will? How could God’s will involve pain, and brokenness? How could God, whom every good and perfect thing come from Him, allow me to be subjected to this. After all, if you know anything about the Bible, you know that no harm could ever come our way, without God’s consent, right?
The Bible would have us look no further than Jesus for that answer. Look at the way he was martyred. Slain, and left out to pasture, by his own people. It was God’s permissible will. It happened so that God’s perfect could happen. There would be no resurrection if there without his earthly death. There would be no salvation, if we didn’t need to be saved (from ourselves) from the curse that is sin. That’s just the way it is, right? In life we have been through things, and have dealt with trauma over and over again. And we often-times ask ourselves how we could pray or ever hope for God’s will to be done, if this is what we’d have to endure for it happen. “Lord, if this is what it means for your will to be done, I don’t think I want that.” I know I feel that way all the time.
We hear people quote the scripture from Romans 8:28: All things work for the good of those that love God and are called according to His purpose. We use that scripture to say that no matter what everything will alright. To say that we can get through it because it’s about God’s purpose. The truth of matter is, we don’t wanna go through anything (at least no type of adversity) to get to our purpose. Why would we? We quote these scriptures and pray for God’s will to be done, and it’s as if we don’t really understand what that entails. We don’t understand that perhaps in God will being done, that He’s gonna have to allow us to be broken into pieces. Ouch!! That He’s gonna have to allow our relationships to be torn apart and maybe even fail (Yes, I’m even talking about marriages, ie check the divorce rate among believers). There are going to be some casualties and some losses in this war. Someone told me once that War is a word indicative of destruction, and therefore we should be careful in using that word to describe things. They were absolutely right when they said that. I would interject, that sometimes, war is exactly what it is. Some things will have to be destroyed. Others will have to be rebuilt afterwards. God doesn’t allow it just because, He allows it for His purpose, otherwise known as His will. That loss that impacted your life, and caused you to go through some things, was for the will of God. That marriage you got into and have had for 10+ years, that all of the sudden no longer works, could be a part of God’s will for you as well. It’s a plan. It’s purpose driven. The truth is, rarely do we agree with the execution of it.
I saw a video posted last week on Facebook titled, if Someone Leaves you, Let them Leave (wow). That doesn’t seem very nice. I know right? The purpose of what TD Jakes was saying in the sermon, was that God has a purpose for all things. And when you’re in something and someone makes a decision to make an exit, then it’s quite possible that it happened according to God’s permissible will. I use permissible, because, it doesn’t necessarily have to happen that way, but God is not going to do anything to stop it or intervene, because He ultimately knows that person or thing is not attached to your true purpose. Let’s talk about relationships for a second. We see people try and try and try to “make” their relationships and marriages “work”. They want to talk and go to counseling and figure out all the things that have gone wrong to repair their marriage. Don’t get me wrong, you are supposed to perform your “due diligence” for your relationships/marriage. You should make sure you’ve done all “humanly” possible. That’s just it, when it goes beyond the two of you, and you get to that moment where you finally decide to pray, you better make sure you know what you’re asking. You need to know that when we ask God to intervene, that some stuff we think is crazy might just happen. Are you saying that heartache, and heartbreak are possible when God’s will is done? That’s exactly what I’m saying. Sometimes it’s almost a certainty that someone will be hurt, depending on the situation of course.
What if I told you, that in order for you to reach this peak level, you will have to lose everything you hold dear? Some people would say, “Sure, I’ll do it.” What if, in that same breath, they said, you’ll end up homeless, losing a child, your wife, and have no earthly possessions with the exception the clothes on your back? Would you still be so quick to accept the challenge? You’re lying if you jumped to say “Yes!!” Nobody, and I mean Nobody wants to go through some of the hardships that have to be had in order to fulfill God’s will. That’s why we have to be willing participants in it. We have to understand that there are things that we can’t pack in the suitcase to go on this journey. Things that just don’t fit. Like trying to put a square peg into a hole the shape of a triangle.
God’s will can be harsh to us at times and we never know what He has in store. That’s because God is willing to do whatever possible to get the best out of you. He doesn’t act the way we do, He doesn’t think the way we think. He sees hurt as possibly helpful (of course He doesn’t want us to hurt, but He knows we have a great tendency to get in our own way), and not necessarily as a hindrance. It’s a means to an end to get us to where we need to be. They are lessons and parables to Him. They are there to ultimately prosper you. To make you the best version of you EVER. That’s what we call His Perfect Will. That’s why when Jesus was in Gethsemane praying, knowing that He would soon be taken to be crucified, that He would pray “Nevertheless, your will be done.” It’s because despite what He felt, He realized that the perfect will of the Father was always going to be best.